Why is It Hard for Me to Trust People?

It’s a tricky issue.

You have to revisit your past experience that led to your trust issue, and then try to pinpoint cause. Maybe it’s painful when you revisit the experience and that is understandable. But it is important to know the source.

Otherwise, you will have a problem without knowing where it came from. That’s not a good place to be in. It’s like experiencing a physical pain, but not knowing the location of the pain. How can you heal yourself without knowing where the pain is, right?

What was the incident that led to you having trust issues?

Once you have pinpointed the source, now you have the opportunity to deal with that incident. Perhaps when the incident happened, you didn’t process it properly and that led you to live your life with an emotional pain inside. Like an open wound that’s left untreated, it becomes worse over time.

That’s why it’s important to revisit the painful experience, but this time deal with it properly so that you can move on. You have to analyze the situation productively, like cleaning the wound and applying iodine on it. Then, you can cover it with bandage and let time heals it.

But without cleaning the wound and applying the iodine, time won’t make it better.

If you think that the process is too difficult and too painful, then that is why we have professionals who can help you with that. We have professionals like counsellors, psychiatrists, and clinical psychologists who are trained and qualified to help you depending on how serious of a problem you have.

If you don’t know who to meet and where to start, I suggest you start with a counsellor – a registered counsellor. Lembaga Kaunselor Malaysia, the official body that regulates counselling activities in Malaysia, has a directory of all registered counsellors in Malaysia. You can find a counsellor closest to you and make an appointment.

Click on the following link to access the directory: Direktori Kaunselor Lembaga Kaunselor Malaysia.

If you are skeptical about how they will keep your issue a secret, all counsellors who are registered are bound by Akta Kaunselor 1998. There’s an ethical code of secrecy where your counsellor must respect your privacy. If the counsellor doesn’t comply to that code, you can report him/her to LKM.

Why so serious? Because trust is a serious matter. Trust is the currency of human relationships. If there’s no trust, then there’s no relationship.

A counsellor should know that better than anyone else.