When you try something to reach a goal and then you failed, know that failure is not the end of the road. Failure is not a gravestone. It is a stepping stone.
What does it mean?
If you see failure as a gravestone, you will see it as the ending of the path. This is the end, with nothing left anymore. If you see failure as a stepping stone, you will see it as a pitstop in a long journey. You take a rest, recuperate, and then move on with your journey.
A stepping stone propels you to the next level, because it is an opportunity to learn from what went wrong from before. From there, you will grow as a person and you know how to make the next step the better step to take.
When the next failure comes your way, you repeat the same process again: learn, internalize, and move on. You do that until you reach the goal you have set for yourself.
Or, perhaps through all the stepping stones you encountered along the way, you might end up with a different goal than what you originally set, but that new goal is better.
But then again, if you don’t reach the goal you originally set, doesn’t that mean you have wasted your time trying to reach it?
Even if you do not reach that original goal, it is not a waste of time because every stepping stone you faced is a lesson. Every time you learn that lesson, you grow as a person. That, is not a waste at all.
Either way, it’s a win-win proposition.