Between No Emotions, Being Emotional, and Being Too Emotional

Photo by Paris Buttfield-Addison

I watched a Youtube video about Malaysian politics and I was inspired to write this post.

It is hard not to be emotional at times. Some might say it is impossible, because human beings cannot be divorced from emotions.

So it is not wrong to be emotional but like everything else, balance is key.

Feeling no emotions is problematic. Those who can’t feel emotions usually have psychological issues. Emotions enable us to be human and enable us to gauge our actions (Note: not all the time).

For example, I feel guilty when I wrong someone. That emotion will motivate me not to repeat the same mistake again. But what if I don’t feel guilty? What if I don’t feel anything? I’d be more likely to do it again.

Aside: What about feeling the wrong emotions? Instead of guilt, I feel pleasure. Okay, now that is a huge red flag.

Feeling too much emotions is also problematic. Those who are too emotional are usually out of control. They can’t think straight and they do/say things that they will most probably regret later.

It is important to be in control of our emotions and not let our emotions control us.

For example, we strongly disagree with someone on something that we feel passionately about. Obviously, no matter how hard we try to be rational, our emotions will factor into the equation.

We might disagree so much with that person that we end up hating that person (even though, in principle, we should hate the actions and not the person).

Even in such a situation, we should try our best to gain control and not let emotions take the steering wheel. We should be just, even with the people we hate.

“O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm for Allah , witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what you do.” (Surah al-Maidah: 8)

Ibnu Kathir commented on “and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just“.

He said, “The Ayah commands: Do not be carried away by your hatred for some people to avoid observing justice with them. Rather, be just with every one, whether a friend or an enemy.”