Aiman Azlan

Motivator

Vlogger

Author

Freelancer

I'm Aiman Azlan,
Motivator, Vlogger, and Author
from Perlis, Malaysia.

I have rich experience in youth engagement, both online and offline. I am passionate about social issues involving the local youth community. In 2015, I founded Aiman Azlan Academy to empower the youth with sustainable self-confidence through effective communication skill.

What I Do
Motivational Speaking

Engaging the youth, locally and internationally, through motivational speaking programs of various format, such as talks, forums, and seminars.

Training

Teaching communication skills, like vlogging, English speaking, and public speaking, through one-to-one or small group workshops.

Vlogging

Sharing thoughts and answering questions in video form on Youtube and Facebook, touching upon relevant youth topics of today.

Writing

Writing motivational and self-help books about various youth topics, such as self-confidence, identity, love, education, career, and community.

Social Media Advertising

Producing advertisements for products or services through social media copywriting and videomaking. Managed by Gushcloud.

Proofreading

Reading and making grammar corrections for final year project papers, theses, resumes, CVs, and other student-related writings.

Remember Others Too



I love chicken. When my mum cooks chicken, I would have this tendency to take as many as I can for myself.

My mum would stop me and say, “Ingat orang kat lain jugak.”

“Remember others too.”


Part of the khalifah mindset is to consider the people after you and how your actions today can affect them.

We shouldn’t consume and consume, thinking that the earth owes us something. Be like a traveler and take only what you need.

Leave the rest to those who will come after you.

We are not owners. We are borrowers, and we are all borrowing the same earth. Nothing is truly ours.
Even our body is not ours.

It is borrowed and will be returned back to where it came from.

Speak Up! Project



Speak Up! Project is a passion project founded in 2015 by Aiman Azlan, a motivational speaker, author, and vlogger. Since 2011, he has traveled locally and internationally to speak to the youth on various social and spiritual issues. Among many things, he noticed that many youths lack one key element: self-confidence.

Lack of self-confidence is especially an issue with the youth when it comes to soft skills, especially in communication. Using that as a focus point, Aiman started the project to help the youth build unshakeable confidence through the Speak Up! Project’s communication skill development programs.

For more information about the project, download the info sheet here: Speak Up! Project

My Number One Advice for a Happy Life



My number one advice for a happy life: Progress at your own pace.


Many times I met young people (perhaps even senior ones too) who became overwhelmed and stressed out because they haven’t achieved what their peers have.

This can range from studies to careers to relationships. Their friends have graduated but they haven’t. Their friends have secured a job but they haven’t. Their friends have gotten married but they haven’t.
They ended up thinking that there’s something wrong with themselves because they’re not where others are.

Often times, nothing is wrong! Just because you are slower doesn’t mean you are a failure. Instead of focusing on the speed, focus on the destination. Instead of asking how fast you’re going, ask where you’re going.

If you are heading in the right direction, then you are all good my friend - even if you are slower than everybody else. So identify where you’re going and take the journey one step at a time, at your own pace.

Eventually, you’ll get there.

2 Things to Remember If You Really Want to Study Overseas


"How did you get to go to Canada?"

"Why Canada?"

"What scholarship are you under?"

Many asked me those questions and I think many more are wondering about the same things. Let me try to answer all in one go. Bismillah.

After I received my SPM results, I applied for JPA scholarship for oversea studies and my application was accepted. I attended the interview that JPA appointed me. The interview was done in groups and we had to discuss an issue. I passed the interview. I chose the field that I wanted to study in and JPA chose the country that I will go to. JPA chose Canada.

JPA enrolled me in Taylor's University College, Subang Jaya in a Canadian university preparation program called the International Canadian Pre-University (ICPU). Now, it's called Canadian Pre-University (CPU). There are two requirements that I have to fulfill: requirements of the program to graduate and the requirements of JPA to qualify me to go to Canada.

Those two may and may not overlap each other.

I needed at least an average of 80% in ICPU and at least a 6.5 in IELTS (an English proficiency test) in order to quality for a seat to go to Canada. I applied for student visa from the Canadian Embassy in Kuala Lumpur. I applied for university myself. I can choose at least 5 universities and rank them according to my preference. Out of the five, JPA chose the one that I will go to and JPA chose University of Toronto (coincidentally, my first choice).

I passed ICPU and IELTS, got my admission letter from University of Toronto, and a flight ticket to Toronto, Canada.

Complicated? Good! Now ignore for a moment about what I just wrote and focus on what I'm about to write:

I understand that SPM students and SPM leavers are worried about this stuff. I was too. Some worried more than others. But when you get to my age, you'll look back and realize that your worry is out of proportion from the actual seriousness of the situation.

It's not life or death, so chill out a bit.

To ease the worry of people, I have two things that I hope people will remember about studying overseas:

Thing #1: To teachers/parents, please please please don't freak out your students/children


They are already freaking out as they are. I hear some teachers say stuff like, "SPM is not everything, but everything starts with SPM". That's a good twist of lines but what you're essentially saying is this: SPM IS EVERYTHING! (yes, with all caps and exclamation mark at the end).

SPM is not everything. Stop define success and future success by how many As students get on tests, or you might lose a lot of young, talented, and gifted people whose true potential can't be quantified with a bunch of numbers and letters. Grades don't measure a person's self-worth and value to the community.

I love my teachers and I respect them very much. I still visit my teachers every once in a while. But when it comes to this issue, I am putting my foot down.

Thing #2: To students, don't worry about the whole thing


You can't swallow a whole chicken. Take it one bite at a time. It is awesome that you want to go overseas and I highly recommend it. There's so much that you can learn inside the classes and outside of them.

But if, for some reason, you don't make it overseas, that's okay. There is more than one way to go overseas. Trust me on that. You're probably introduced to a few of them and thinking that they are the only ways for you to go overseas. That is false!

There are more ways than you can even imagine. When one door closes, another one opens. Find the one that opens and stop staring at the one that closes. How I got to where I am right now is just one of the many possible doors out there.

The journey I took is best for me, but it might not be best for you.

I want to close with this mental note: be grateful with what you do have. Stop torturing yourself with all the things that you don't have. If you want something, then try your best to get it. If you don't get it, be grateful that you tried, look at what you already have in your hands, and move on.

At the end of the day, success is not determined by where you study. It is determined by you.

3 Things to Ask Yourself Before Getting Angry


Anger is one of those emotions that makes you a normal human being. Even the best of us gets angry at times. This blog post was written not to deny yourself of that emotion. In fact, the emotion is acknowledged and respected.

Having said that, this blog post is simply written to enable you to analyze yourself before you decided to act upon that anger. Although the feeling is normal and often times we can't control when it happens, but we are still in control of how we act because of it.

It's not going to be easy. Anger can be so powerful, it can be overwhelming. But just like with almost anything in life, you need to be patient in practicing the skill. Stumbling here and there is normal, but remember to dust yourself off and keep on trying.

SELF-AWARENESS


The question remains: How do I analyze my anger when I'm angry? The first step of analyzing any emotion is to have self-awareness.

To put it simply, self-awareness is being in tune with what's going on inside your head i.e. your thoughts and feelings. When you think of something or when you feel something, be deliberate in telling yourself what is it that you're thinking about and what is the emotion you're feeling.

If it helps, you can write it down on a piece of paper when you have certain thoughts or experience certain emotions. This simple exercise can help turn the abstract into something concrete. This makes it easier for you to analyze it.

With practice, you might not even have to write anything down. You will be self-aware almost automatically. It becomes second nature. Of course, that comes with hard work and patience.

3 QUESTIONS


There are many, many moments in life where you will get angry at the people around you. There are times when that anger is completely justified, so to ignore the feeling would be unjust. But, there are also times when the anger isn’t justified.

Meaning, there’s a chance your anger is misplaced.

Because there is a chance that you might be wrong, so you have to take some time to analyze the anger before you turn green. Take this time to investigate your anger with 3 these important questions:

  1. Am I angry at what he/she does or something else? Sometimes, you are angry at something else but that anger is directed at a person not related to what you're angry at.
  2. Am I angry for something in present or in the past? Sometimes, you have an unfinished business from something done in the past and it gets transferred to the present. It can make the intensity of your anger disproportionate.
  3. How do I express this anger so that the relationship becomes better and not worse? There are times when your anger is completely justified, but that doesn't mean that you can go all lose and release the Kraken! So, this last question is super important to make sure the action you committed because of anger is something productive and not destructive.

WHY?


Why would I torture myself with all these questions when I can just let my anger out and feel better? 

Well, it is undeniable that getting angry can be satisfying and can make yourself feel better.

But this exercise isn't just about you, it is also about the people around you. This exercise won't give you the instant gratification that your anger can, but it will certainly be able to save and nourish your relationships with the people around you.

At the end of the day, not only do we want to feel better, we also want our relationships to be better.

Figuring Out Your Life and Meeting Parents' Expectations


I don't know what my parents want from me, and I don't know what to do with my life.

It is important to communicate with important people around you, especially your parents. Otherwise, you will enter the guessing world where you simply guess what they want and think. That might lead you to conclusions that will hurt yourself in the end.

So, you have to find ways to sort things out with your parents. Just bear in mind, that should happen all the time. Talk with your parents when you want to know what they want, or when you have problems.

Also, don't think that you are a burden to them. As a parent myself, I want to know if my child is doing okay or not because that is my job. I "signed up" to become a father. It is my choice. Therefore, I also choose all the things required within the job and one of the most important things in this job of parenting is my child's wellbeing.

As for what you want to do with your life, it is a process and a journey. Don't think that it is a race and that you have to keep up with other people. You don't have to, and there is no rule that says that you have to finish your studies at a certain time. I have seen old people still going to university, with a cane!

Learning and discovering is a lifelong endeavour. Take your time and explore your life in your own unique pace. It might take some trial and error, but in the end you will find what you want to do with your life. At the same time, don't look for a stress-free option.

What you want to do with your life doesn't have to be convenient and easy. In fact, often times it is difficult and challenging. But because you love doing it, you will do it anyway. In reality, there is no stress-free option. You can't escape stress, so might as well face it head on.

However, you can choose your stress. My advice to you is to choose the kind of stress that makes you feel satisfied and fulfilled. Yes, you will feel tired and sometimes frustrated, but in the end you will still feel satisfied and fulfilled. You will sleep better and you will wake up tomorrow feeling excited to do it all over again. It is stressful, but it is also joyful.

That is the kind of stress you should be seeking. It takes time, effort, and patience. But, in time, you will find it.

Have confidence in yourself and keep moving forward.

Forgiveness


Have you ever wrong someone and you know that you are at fault, but find it difficult to seek forgiveness?

Have you ever been wronged by someone and that person apologizes, but you find it difficult to forgive?

I think it is safe to assume that we have experienced both of the situations above, or at least one of them. Both situations are difficult, but we already know what is the right thing to do in each situation. We know that if we wronged someone, we should seek forgiveness and we know that if we have been wronged, we should forgive.

One would think that if one knows what is the right thing to do, it would be easier to do it. But in this case, knowing what is the right thing to do is not enough, because it is still difficult to do. Why?

Seeking forgiveness is difficult. Saying "I'm sorry" means that you are acknowledging that you are wrong and that you are lowering yourself below the person whom you have wronged. Nobody likes to do either of those two things because it doesn't feel good.

On the other hand, forgiving is also difficult. Saying "I forgive you" means that you are letting the person go. Before, that person is locked up inside the prison of revenge; the person is the prisoner and you are the warden of that prison. You feel like revenge gives you power.

Seeking forgiveness doesn't feel good. Forgiving doesn't feel good either. But that's the nature of medicine; it doesn't taste good, but you know it's good for you. If seeking forgiveness and forgiving is the medicine, then what is the illness?

The illness here is an inflated ego.

People who don't want to ask for forgiveness feel that it is humiliating to lower themselves, even if they know they are wrong. The ego doesn't want to feel humiliation so in order to maintain a sense of pride, the ego either denies that it's wrong or retaliates with some sort of weird justification.

People who don't want to forgive feel that it is a sign of weakness to let go of the person who have done them wrong. The ego feels empowered by revenge, and it wants to maintain that power. Revenge becomes the source of energy for the person.

However, revenge is a negative energy. Although it can motivate people to keep on going, it can also devour them. Revenge is like a baggage that they carry around all the time because they refuse to let it go. That baggage gets heavier and heavier as time goes by.

Every time people remind themselves about the painful past, the wound gets deeper and deeper. So holding on to revenge will be detrimental for them. The medicine is to let it go, no matter how hard it may be.

People might find it difficult to forgive and to let go, especially when the person who wronged them doesn't deserve forgiveness - at least from their perception. That might be true. There are wrongdoings that are so terrible, it would be unthinkable to forgive such a person who commit them.

However, this is a matter of perspective. We forgive not because the person deserves it or not. We forgive because we know that forgiving others is what God wants from us. It is what would be more pleasing to Him. We shift our focus from our ego, to God.

On top of that, we forgive others because we too want forgiveness, don't we? We should want for others what we want for ourselves. If we want to be easily forgiven, then we should easily forgive. This doesn't in any way justify the wrongdoing; punishment is due.

To forgive and to let go doesn't mean that we just forget what happened. It is undeniable that there are wrongdoings that are almost impossible to forget. To forgive and to let go mean that we allow ourselves the room for healing.

Whether it be to ask for forgiveness or to forgive, both are not easy to do. To ask for forgiveness requires a big heart and to forgive requires a bigger heart. Thankfully, God designed the human heart to be big enough for both.

Welcome!

Assalamualaikum and hello!

Welcome to my blog. This is where I write down my thoughts and opinions about various youth topics important to me:

  1. Self
  2. Spirituality
  3. Education
  4. Community
  5. Relationship

You can read my popular posts for the last 7 days, read my recent posts, or you can explore my archive.

Feel free to browse around, and contact me for inquiries or feedback.

Thank you for your time.

-Aiman

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Arau, Perlis MY

Phone number

+6 013 416 4652

Website

www.aimanazlan.com