Aiman Azlan

Motivator

Vlogger

Author

Freelancer

I'm Aiman Azlan,
Motivator, Vlogger, and Author
from Perlis, Malaysia.

I have rich experience in youth engagement, both online and offline. I am passionate about social issues involving the local youth community. In 2015, I founded Aiman Azlan Academy to empower the youth with sustainable self-confidence through effective communication skill.

What I Do
Motivational Speaking

Engaging the youth, locally and internationally, through motivational speaking programs of various format, such as talks, forums, and seminars.

Training

Teaching communication skills, like vlogging, English speaking, and public speaking, through one-to-one or small group workshops.

Vlogging

Sharing thoughts and answering questions in video form on Youtube and Facebook, touching upon relevant youth topics of today.

Writing

Writing motivational and self-help books about various youth topics, such as self-confidence, identity, love, education, career, and community.

Social Media Advertising

Producing advertisements for products or services through social media copywriting and videomaking. Managed by Gushcloud.

Proofreading

Reading and making grammar corrections for final year project papers, theses, resumes, CVs, and other student-related writings.

Patutkah Saya Luahkan Perasaan Kepada 'Crush' Saya?




MESEJ UTAMA

  1. Perasaan cinta tidak dapat dikawal; ia kerap kali datang tanpa diundang. Ada yang boleh lalui zaman universiti tanpa bercinta, tapi ada ramai yang tidak boleh. 
  2. Perasaan itu satu perkara normal dan neutral, ia jadi salah atau betul bergantung kepada apakah perbuatan kita hasil daripada perasaan tersebut.
  3. Dua soalan yang patut ditanyakan kepada diri sendiri apabila dilanda perasaan cinta:
    • Bolehkah aku serius dengan individu tersebut?
    • Jika tidak boleh serius, apakah yang patut aku lakukan untuk usaha ke arah serius dan kawal diri in the mean time?
  4. Serius dalam bercinta bermakna perkahwinan dan tidak ada takrifan lain. Jika mampu serius, maka luahkan hasrat untuk berkahwin dengannya dalam masa yang terdekat (bukan bertahun-tahun akan datang). Dalam masa yang terdekat tersebut, boleh gunakan masa tersebut untuk sesi suai kenal (bukan dating).
  5. Jika tidak mampu untuk serius, maka Islam berikan puasa sebagai satu mekanisma untuk mengawal diri. Ia satu mekanisma yang temporary dan ia satu mekanisma untuk membantu sahaja. Maknanya, puasa itu bukan untuk selama-lamanya dan ia tidak secara automatic akan menjadikan kita terkawal nafsu. 
  6. Puasa mengurangkan nafsu, tetapi ia tidak menghapuskan nafsu. Ia perlu diselit dengan pelbagai usaha lain agar diri kita dikawal. 
  7. Dalam masa kita mengawal diri, kita perlu ambil kesempatan untuk mantapkan persediaan diri agar diri mampu untuk serius. Kerana jika tidak mampu serius, maka tidak patut luahkan perasaan kerana itu hanya akan menimbulkan kekeliruan dan membuka ruang untuk aktiviti-aktiviti yang tidak patut dilakukan.

Bagaimana Untuk Istiqamah?




Mesej utama:
  1. Istiqamah tidak bermaksud tidak berubah (graf mendatar) atau improve sentiasa (graf meningkat tanpa penurunan).
  2. Istiqamah bermaksud kita naik apabila kita turun (graf naik turun). Umpama iman kita yang naik turun.
  3. Sebagai manusia, kita akan terjatuh. Istiqamah adalah untuk bangkit setiap kali kita jatuh.
  4. Salah satu helah syaitan adalah apabila kita jatuh, dia yakinkan kita bahawa kita perlu kekal jatuh dan rasa diri sendiri tidak berguna atau tidak layak untuk bangkit semula.

Bagaimana Untuk Mengatasi Pemuda Yang Kuat Memberontak?




Mesej utama:
  1. Jangan fikir masalah anak-anak muda adalah masalah generasi ini sahaja; lumrah pemuda sama sepanjang zaman, hanya ujian sahaja yang berbeza.
  2. Pemberontakan, walaupun konotasinya negatif, tidak kesemuanya salah kerana ada ketika pemuda memberontak untuk menentang perkara yang salah. 
  3. Isunya bukan pemberontakan, tetapi cara pemberontakan yang tidak hikmah. 
  4. Semangat pemuda perlu dipandu, bukan dipadam. Pemuda perlukan bantuan mereka yang lebih tua untuk memandu semangat memberontak ke arah yang produktif.
  5. Pemuda perlu lebih mesra dan bergaul dengan mereka yang lebih tua. Mereka yang lebih tua juga perlu lebih mesra dan bergaul dengan mereka yang lebih tua. Ini hubungan dua hala, tidak patut dituju kepada satu pihak sahaja.

Alone vs Lonely


When I was in secondary school, my English teacher taught me the difference between the word “alone” and “lonely”.

Alone is a physical state, where you are all by yourself physically. Nobody else is around you. For example, you are alone in your room. You are literally by yourself. Being alone is not an issue.

Lonely is an emotional state, where you feel like you are alone even though there are other people around you. You somehow feel isolated in your own world and you feel like nobody is there to share your experience. You can be lonely in a crowded room. Loneliness is an issue.

If you are lonely, try to reach out and open a little bit of a room for someone to enter your world. I know, it is easier said than done.

But you might surprise yourself by having someone else who is experiencing something similar to what you are experiencing. Maybe you are not the only one in the world with that problem.

Knowing that doesn’t make the problem go away, but it does remove the feeling of loneliness. If anything, that is a good first step towards healing.

Public Speaking Fears: People Misunderstand What I'm Saying


I’m really passionate about becoming a motivational speaker, but what I’m usually afraid of is that people misunderstanding the message that I’m trying to convey. Can you explain more on how to overcome this?

I think all public speakers have that fear, whether they are beginners or pros. Personally, I think it is a good fear to have because it keeps you careful. But, when it’s not in check, this fear can be paralizing and it can stop you from doing the things that you want to do.

So I think as with any fear, the first thing to do is to face it.

1. Embrace the risk.

Accept the fact that there will always be a possibility that people misunderstand you. Don’t delude yourself by thinking that you will make it perfect every time. That’s not going to happen. You’re a human being and your audience are human beings, and there’s no human relationship where there is no misunderstanding occurring at some point in that relationship.

Of course, the more you practice, gain feedback, and improve, the more you’ll be able to avoid further misunderstandings. But still, even the pros can have this problem. So really, it will be easier just to accept your imperfections than to deny them.

Having said that, you are not free from responsibility and you are responsible for what is within your control.

2. Focus on what you can control.

Misunderstanding can come from at least two sources, the audience and you, the speaker.

Misunderstanding that comes from the audience is something that you can’t control.

Sometimes misunderstanding happens because the audience is selective in listening to you, or perhaps the audience is emotional, or perhaps the audience doesn’t take context into consideration.

Again, this is beyond your control.

It is possible that you could be crystal clear in your speech, but people can still misunderstand you because they don’t listen to you properly. So it is the audience’s responsibility to listen well to the speaker.

Communication is a two-way street. Both the speaker and the audience have their own responsibility that they need to fulfil in order for the communication to be effective.

So, what’s your responsibility as the speaker? You are responsible for what you can control.

Misunderstanding that comes from you is something that you can control.

It will either come from what you say, how you say it, or both.

What you say refers to the content. There’s really only two things I want to say about content:

You need to focus on what you know and understand. Don’t try to talk about something you don’t fully grasp, just because you want to appear knowledgable. Don’t fall for the trap. It is better to admit that you don’t know, then to make something up just to impress people. Sooner or later, it is going to come back and bite you.

You need to clarify the keywords that you are using, especially when those words can have multiple meanings. So make sure define the specific keywords you are using so as to remove any ambiguity in your talk. This is why in debates, you always begin with definitions.

How you say it refers to your approach. Different kinds of audience require different approaches in how you say things. You are required to adapt your approach and style according to your audience, and not the other way around. You could be saying the same thing, but when you use two different approaches, you can get two different outcomes.

So make sure you understand who are the people in front of you. This requires flexibility, creativity, and awareness of people.

Recap

1. Embrace the risk, because running away from it won’t solve the problem.
2. Focus on what you can control, because you are only responsible for that and that alone.

That’s it. I hope that helps!

So what’s stopping you from speaking up? Do you face any internal obstacles when it comes to English speaking, public speaking, speaking in an interview, or speaking in a class? Let me know in the comment section below.

Bye!

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Contact Me

Location

Arau, Perlis MY

Phone number

+6 013 416 4652

Website

www.aimanazlan.com