Is She Ready for Marriage?
I heard from Shaykh Zahir Bacchus this story of a man who came to Shaykh Sulaiman Moola. He told Shaykh Sulaiman that he has a daughter with such and such degree, with such and such job, and makes such and such amount of money.
Then he said to the Shaykh, "I think my daughter is ready for marriage. Do you have somebody in mind for her and do you think she is ready for marriage?"
The Shaykh replied, "No, she is not ready for marriage. She is ready for divorce."
What is the intention of marriage?
That is the question that we need to ask ourselves right now, whether we're married or not. If you are married, then you can renew your intention. If you're not married, then make the right intention now.
It's not too late, not yet.
Lets educate ourselves on the Sunna of marriage so that we may differentiate between what is cultural and what is Deen.
In the story above, the criteria that the father put forth as priority were all materialistic ones, with Deen out of the picture - a recipe for disaster.
When seeking the pleasure of Allah is not the main intention, then we are paving for ourselves a path to failure.
"Nothing other than the intention has caused the dwellers of Paradise to dwell in it." - Imam Hasan al-Basri