Wednesday, March 27, 2013

O God, Make Me a Servant

I find that helping people, just for the sake of God, to be therapeutic.

An Honoured Station

Expect nothing in return except for the ability to serve. Ask God for that. Ask Him to make us servants - servants of the people. Ask Him to put us in the position of service. Honestly, the position of service is an honourable position in the sight of God.

The Prophets were servants - they served their people and they ultimately served God.

Those who serve others are following the footsteps of the Prophets, and really, whose footsteps are better than those of the Prophets?

A Path to Contentment

When you serve others, you are stepping into worlds beyond your own. In effect, those whom you served are stepping into yours too. This sharing of worlds is more than an exchange in perceptions, rather an expansion of perceptions.

You start to realize that the problems that you personally have aren't that bad. You start to realize how big the world is, with its infinite possibilities. The world is not bleak and gloom as you might have thought before.

So if you ever feel down, help people. They could be your family, friends, or strangers in the streets.

Your problems aren't the end of the world. There are others who are experiencing worse. Out of this understanding, you start to feel thankful.

A Sense of Responsibility

It's not enough to say thanks with your words to express thankfulness, but it's a start. Thankfulness should motivate you to act, to use those blessings you have in your hands and spread them to other people.

Find every opportunity in your life to do that. Find every opportunity to help. Utilize your life for service.

The best of people are those who are beneficial to the society.

Ask God to make you a servant, because to be able to serve others, in and of itself, is a great blessing.

Alhamdulillah. Praise be to God.

Sunday, March 17, 2013

Emotional Bullying

Photo by Umar Mita

Emotional bullying is the worst kind of bullying out there.

Where is the pain?

If you punch someone in the face, you see the blood and your hand would probably hurt too. You know where the wound is and you can treat it. It'll heal pretty quickly too.

But if you hurt someone emotionally, you will not see the blood nor will you feel any pain in your hands like when you punch someone. The person you've bullied may or may not display the signs of pain and you may or may not remember hurting that person.

You don't know where the wound is and you don't know where to apply the bandage. Chances are, it won't heal in a day or two.

People who bully physically have done something wrong, but people who bully emotionally have done something worse. The worst of them all are the ones who do both, and that happens a lot unfortunately.

Poisonous tongues

Emotional bullying can be done in many ways, but the method of emotional bullying that we often take for granted is inflicted using our tongues.

Calling people names, making fun of other people, racist comments, inappropriate jokes, spreading rumours, etc.

A simple sentence or even a word that is placed out of line can cause damage so severe you wouldn't believe it. You might think it's not a big deal but to the person you've bullied, the reality is much different.

Each is unique

Each individual human being is a collection of experiences. Each one is unique.

What's okay for some might not be okay for others. You can't assume that the things you say will be accepted exactly as how you would accept them, and you can't hide behind the lame justification "Oh, I was only kidding."

To you, a word might mean nothing and you might think you're using it as a harmless joke. But to the other person, that word is hell.

That is not an exaggeration.

Abu Hurayra reported that Prophet Muhammad said, "Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak good words or be silent." [Agreed upon]

Speak good or speak nothing.

Real life vs Internet

To make matters worse, we have the internet now. Not only can one person bullies another, that person can do so on a larger scale. It is no different than defaming a person in front of thousands of people. In fact, that is exactly what it is - public defamation.

There is something about the internet that makes matters worse: anonymity.

Being anonymous makes people feel "invisible". Anonymity suggests to the mind that one can do anything and nobody will know about it. Although it might be true that nobody knows who is the person behind the fake username, but Allah knows.

Allah knows.

Allah knows who you are and what you did.

This post is my reaction towards what happened to Amanda Todd, who committed suicide after being emotionally bullied in real life and on the internet. 

Thursday, March 07, 2013

An Eye Opener

Today, I learned about visual impairment in my Psychology class.

We watched a video about 3 individuals with different visual impairments.


The first individual was a kid named John.

He was blind from birth, but he was far from handicapped. He was an intelligent kid with big dreams. He wanted to be many things, among them were an astronaut, a dispatcher, and a newscaster.

One of John's friends said something beautiful. She said, "Blind kids are normal, they just can't see."

I don't know why, but what she said almost made me cry.


The second individual was a teenager named Kyle.

Due to a medical complication early in his life, the doctor had to perform a procedure that rendered him blind. But the doctor didn't blind his abilities. Depending solely on his keen tactile sense and his ear for music, he could play the piano very well. On top of that, he had the dispositions of an actor and he was chosen to act in his school plays.


The third individual was a woman named Kristen.

She was not blind but her vision was greatly impaired. She had to make due with the residual vision that she had. Her overall vision was very blurry and her peripheral vision was almost nonexistent.

But she was not helpless. She too had big dreams. She worked as a lawyer.

A lawyer! (Mindblown)

Towards the end, she said, "To me, everyone is beautiful. I can't see blemishes or wrinkles on their faces."

3 incredible people.

Makes me think to myself, "God gave me functional eyes, but do I really see?"