It has been a week since my wife and I came back from hajj.
The memory is still fresh, but I can feel that it is fading away. It is similar to the feeling I get after Ramadan is over. The spirit is still high, but without any maintenance it will slowly dissipates with the passage of time.
To avoid the all-too-common downhill ride, we decided to write a book about our hajj experience. There is more than one intention behind it, obviously. But one of the intention is to make the book a perpetual reminder of our experience.
Wow. Look at that title, what a way to start a blog post.
Let me try to reduce the size of the flame here. I’m not saying that they don’t remember your wedding like it doesn't exist. I’m just saying that they don’t remember your wedding the way that you thought they would remember it.
You can ask them and find out:
Do they remember what you wore that day?Do they remember the food you served?Do they remember the color theme you chose?Do they remember the decorations you set up?Do they remember the name of your partner? <--- my favourite :p
Or, try this: Have your photo album be ready a few weeks after the wedding, sit down with your family, and flip through the pages. See how much they actually remember. Even the actual bride and groom don't remember some of the things that were in their own wedding (speaking from experience here).
People who have other better things to do don't tend to remember specific physical details, the kind of details that we like to focus our att…
I was talking with my wife yesterday about our favourite subjects in school. We were thinking about what we have gained from the years we spent in school.
As we were talking and talking, I realized something about myself.
I didn't remember the things that I studied just to pass the exam. The things I memorized, almost all of them disappeared from memory now. What a shame.
However, the things that I found interesting, whether it be in class, outside of class, in textbook, etc, those were the things that stuck with me until today.
Even if those things didn't make it into the exam papers, I still remember them. In some cases, I still apply them in my life. The things I found interesting...those are the things I remember.
What's my point?
My point is not that exams are not important. They are a part of our lives, a part of the system, and until we can find a better way to implement a better way to measure progress in schools, we have to adapt and live with exams. In some ca…