Monday, January 23, 2017

How to Motivate Myself?


Someone asked me, “How can I motivate myself if I don’t know how?” This question is from the comment section of one of my Youtube videos where I talked about motivation.

Self-motivation means you motivate yourself. It comes from your own doing. It’s your choice. There are many ways of self-motivation but I am just going to give you 3 ways that I personally use.

#1 Surrounding 

Remember, self-motivation is your choice and your surrounding falls under that. You choose your surrounding, especially the people you hang out with and the places you go to.

Who do you hang out with and where do you usually hang out in? Do you hang out with positive, inspirational people? Do you hang out in positive, inspirational places? The surrounding that you choose will affect how you feel about yourself.

#2 Service

Choose to serve other people, not for profit or praise, but just for the sake of making other people’s lives better. The Prophet said that the best among us is the one who is most beneficial to the community.

It’s not wrong to gain profit or praise if you gain it through honest means, but you don’t want that to be the ultimate goal. When you help people for the sake of making them happier, you yourself will be happier in the process.

You start to realize that you are valuable and that you are capable. You have a place in the community and that the community needs you for something. But you have to go out and serve. Don’t wait for people to come and ask. If you found a need somewhere, then be the first person to fulfil that need.

#3 Self-talk

Specifically, positive self-talk. I purposefully place this last on the list because it is the most important one out of all 3. Having a positive surrounding and doing positive service will not help you that much if you don’t practice positive self-talk with yourself.

Do you give yourself encouraging words from time to time? Do you reward yourself for the good things that you do, even if they are small? Do you notice your own strengths?

Positive self-talk is not about boasting yourself, but it is about appreciating yourself and be grateful to God for the good that you do and the good that you are. Yes, you have weaknesses. We all have them, and we all need to work on them.

But we should not fix our gaze on the negative, such that we forget the positive that we already possess. Focusing on the negative will make us negative, bitter, sad, and ultimately, unhappy.

Even if you have the best surrounding and even if you serve the people left, right, and center, but if you don’t have a positive mindset about yourself, then you are not going to be able to self-motivate yourself.

If you want to motivate yourself, then you have to first be kind to yourself, respect yourself, and appreciate yourself.

Having said all of that, what I say doesn’t matter.

What matters is what you say to yourself about yourself.

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Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Dakwah and Confidence

Dakwah is an art of communicating the divine message to humanity. Speaking the truth is not enough. You have to speak the truth in the right way, according to whom you are speaking with.

Speaking isn't the only medium for dakwah. Communication can be established in many, many ways. We shouldn't preoccupy ourselves too much on speech to commit to dakwah.

Any (legal) medium of communication can be used for dakwah. The goal is simple: to share the message across to people. Note: the keyword is "share". Not "shove".

Sharing this message requires #confidence in yourself, especially in your identity as a Muslim. Have you met a Muslim friend who panicked when someone asked him about Islam?

"Oh my God, what should I answer?!"

Why the panic? Not because the person asking is manipulating his mind into disbelief in Islam, but because the Muslim is not feeling confident in the faith to begin with.

This usually happens when we are born with the faith, like many Muslims that I know. I, too, was born in a Muslim family. But, that's not enough.

A friend of mine once said and I hold his words true in my heart, "We are all Muslims by birth, but today we have to find a reason to become Muslims by choice."

His words struck me deeply. Being a Muslim by birth is a blessing, but you can't rely on that alone if you want to survive as a Muslim in the current climate.

People will flood you with questions about your faith, especially when Islam is in the headlines more and more these days. For dakwah, this is a great opportunity. But only if you are confident enough in your faith in the first place.

If not, then these questions might seem like an attack on you and you might feel like being pushed to a corner. In that situation, there are two choices in your mind: run away or fight.

Both aren't good choices when you don't have confidence. People who lack confidence tend to run away from problems, thinking that it will make the problems disappear. Like sweeping dirt under a rug, you don't see the dirt but you know it's still there.

People who lack confidence can't fight properly. They tend to be emotional and incoherent. They can't form a proper argument and they can't articulate the argument professionally.

To stand firm as a Muslim with all these questions lingering around online and offline, you need confidence. You need to question your faith and remove the doubts.

Because if you don't, others might question it and insert more doubts.

Dakwah and confidence - they move hand in hand.

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Monday, January 09, 2017

What Does It Mean To Be Human?

Being humans mean having the capacity to empatize with the other, even when the other is doing something so inhumane, you get sick. But inhumane behaviours of other people do not justify our inhumane behaviours.

Being humans mean the ability to not respond to negativity with more negativity, without being passive and complacent. We want to improve life as we live it and in doing so, we want to reduce negativity by promoting more positivity into the world.

That, in itself, is not a sign of weakness on our part. When someone punches you and you punches him back, that is actually weakness because you have succumbed to your base desire to get even and not your higher ideals to make the situation better.

This does not mean that the person who punches you should walk away scotch free. Promoting positivity does not mean that we overlook justice. In fact, it doesn’t make sense to promote positivity without promoting justice at the same time.

The thing is, under normal circumstances, justice doesn’t have to be upheld with violence. Those who resort to violence immediately are obeying their animalistic urges. The more animalistic you become, the less human you are.